The obstacles: Fear

Everyone experiences fear, in different degrees and for various reasons. While some of us are paralyzed by it, others are encouraged. Now why is this?
Fear should be treated like a hostage-situation: you don’t just walk away from it; you work with it. Like building muscular mass, it takes time to muster the goods and still more to show off the result. The effect, however, is immediate. If there were a magic potion to meeting women, those who strive so hard to implement themselves daily would simply abandon their efforts and try the bonding pill. While many advisers show you tricks, these seem a bit offish, since most men would simply hate to follow advice to begin with and many already have an idea of what their problem is. The thing is, very few will make an attempt at it. it is then of no surprise that the "secrets" that keep us away from the life or relationship we want will only belong to the willing and determined kind. So what to do with this fear of ours? One thing comes to mind: show it who the boss is. You will agree that there are irrational fear other people suffer. I, for instance, am afraid of flying. It has little to do with logic. In a single day, there are more airplanes in the sky than the ones that have fallen from it in two decades! So the chances of dying a spectacular death are close to almost winning the lotto. Now that is not to say that you can’t be the lucky one to win that ticket. It just means that the scenario of that ever taking place is highly unlikely, to say the least.
Now you can talk all you want about how irrational is to feel certain types of fear. Like being afraid of spiders, or getting out of your house, or flying. But the only thing that will make your fear of anything go away is by confronting that very fear. Remember this: it’s all in your head. We think that we possess the version of reality closest to the actual reality but our imagination plays a huge role in the way. Surely, I don’t doubt that once in a far remote place a girl killed a man for approaching her. But that is not the case. Picture the worst case scenario: she ignores you. Now, how is that any different from you ignoring her? You have absolutely nothing to lose. Except, of course, your childish fear.