Great pick-up artists, like any other artist, is the direct result of trial and error. An experienced actor rehearses his lines, over and over again. In fact, you may know so by the mere fact that whatever it is you shine at, chances are you do so often and without having to think it twice. Writing, biking, lifting weights, eating, whatever your habits are, you are. In order to understand something, we must approach with a different mind. A mind that is not our own, an open mind, receptive and calm. So, it is to no surprise that the first step to become better at something is to realize that you're not that good at it to begin with. Relax, most men don't even get that far (what we described as "How To Ask For Directions" complex). And the key idea to it is precisely that, relaxation. Quieting your mind, emptying your governing thoughts, is not an easy task. But it's possible. Sit down and breath in silence, deeply inhale to the gradual count of seven and then hold the air in for a few moments. Release it, ever so softly and rhythmically. Trying not to think is useless; the more you tell your brain to do, the less it tends to listen. We're impulsive, driven creatures, and as such, our logical commands rarely have a saying into the course of action. Most of the time, this course of action has been already taken a thousand times. Hence we stick with what we know, not because it is the best course of action but because it is a course of action that has been ingrained in us through time and though it may not work all the time, at least it gives us the comfort that we search for in an ever increasingly difficult world.
You're up for a rude awakening.
Nothing in the world we live in stays still for long, not even an instance. Ever single cell in our body is in constant evolution, molecules of all nature are never still, atoms appear and disappear. The body you woke up this morning with is not the same body you will take to bed tonight. Change is the order of the day, and it will take place whether you allow it or not. It'd be advisable, then, to take charge of this process and if we have a saying into this complex metamorphosis, not to leave anything up for grabs. If you're to survive, best to make the right allies, hear all possible points of view before making up your mind (which, by the way, it's a figurative speech since it should never be fixedly "made") and raise the standards you have set for yourself as high as possible. Once you get there, raise then gradually higher, and then repeat and repeat until you rip the glorious benefits. Here's what you do:
- Work out regularly.
- Eat well.
- Meditate.
- Plan ahead and execute your goals.
- Talk at least to ten different girls a day. Just casual "hi", or asking for directions, etc. Build your social muscle.
- Ignore the ones you know and engage those who ignore you once in a while.
- Write down your progress and your thoughts as if you were an outsider looking at your performance.
- Don't take anything too seriously. Be nonchalant.
