The performance

Great pick-up artists, like any other artist, is the direct result of trial and error. An experienced actor rehearses his lines, over and over again. In fact, you may know so by the mere fact that whatever it is you shine at, chances are you do so often and without having to think it twice. Writing, biking, lifting weights, eating, whatever your habits are, you are. In order to understand something, we must approach with a different mind. A mind that is not our own, an open mind, receptive and calm. So, it is to no surprise that the first step to become better at something is to realize that you're not that good at it to begin with. Relax, most men don't even get that far (what we described as "How To Ask For Directions" complex). And the key idea to it is precisely that, relaxation. Quieting your mind, emptying your governing thoughts, is not an easy task. But it's possible. Sit down and breath in silence, deeply inhale to the gradual count of seven and then hold the air in for a few moments. Release it, ever so softly and rhythmically. Trying not to think is useless; the more you tell your brain to do, the less it tends to listen. We're impulsive, driven creatures, and as such, our logical commands rarely have a saying into the course of action. Most of the time, this course of action has been already taken a thousand times. Hence we stick with what we know, not because it is the best course of action but because it is a course of action that has been ingrained in us through time and though it may not work all the time, at least it gives us the comfort that we search for in an ever increasingly difficult world.
You're up for a rude awakening.
Nothing in the world we live in stays still for long, not even an instance. Ever single cell in our body is in constant evolution, molecules of all nature are never still, atoms appear and disappear. The body you woke up this morning with is not the same body you will take to bed tonight. Change is the order of the day, and it will take place whether you allow it or not. It'd be advisable, then, to take charge of this process and if we have a saying into this complex metamorphosis, not to leave anything up for grabs. If you're to survive, best to make the right allies, hear all possible points of view before making up your mind (which, by the way, it's a figurative speech since it should never be fixedly "made") and raise the standards you have set for yourself as high as possible. Once you get there, raise then gradually higher, and then repeat and repeat until you rip the glorious benefits. Here's what you do:

• Work out regularly.
• Eat well.
• Meditate.
• Plan ahead and execute your goals.
• Talk at least to ten different girls a day. Just casual "hi", or asking for directions, etc. Build your social muscle.
• Ignore the ones you know and engage those who ignore you once in a while.
• Write down your progress and your thoughts as if you were an outsider looking at your performance.
• Don't take anything too seriously. Be nonchalant.

Play the part

A good friend of mine, I know since high school, is Michael.
Michael is the typical shy character who refuses to alter his behavior in any way and sees as suspect any attempt to improve. According to him, personality is something that cannot be modified, and this belief is deeply rooted in him: you either have it or you don’t. And he sees nothing wrong with the way he does things, that is, not looking them in the eyes, slightly lowering his head or standing in a corner seeing the action unraveling around, buying them drinks without them having to prove themselves. Typical guy some girls use to take advantage and other insecure girls wish to land. The problem is, all of it is hypocritical.
Why, if he wants to play it safe, does he go out in the first place? Why does he buy himself the best pair of jeans or very expensive clothes, watches, colognes? Why, if not out of vanity, does he want only the best and is willing to pay whatever it takes as long as it requires just money and not behavior? Wearing Armani and behaving K-mart makes no sense to me, I tell him. The guy is not just well-dressed, but he also happens to be in decent shape, has a car, is not a complete moron and has so much more to offer than he does. So why is it that another guy with less comes and does more? Why doesn’t he just quit if he is bent on behaving the way he does? If he truly wants to play the humble type, why does he wear two-hundred dollar pants? Why does he own a watch that costs more than a week of his salary? Why doesn’t he think twice about spending eighty dollars on a shirt? It seems to me that as long as he doesn’t have to put the money (or time) in to improve his act, he is willing to pay his way there. (He's the typical guy who laughs if a girl turns you down because, well, it reinforces his pathetic view.)
Now, I won’t advocate for buying cheap clothes. But too expensive a taste can also backfire. You may pick (well, actually, she’ll pick you up) a gold-digger. That is why Michael often says that if a girl likes you, she’ll show interest, walk up to you somehow and then you just ask her to dance or if you can buy her a drink. That is why every single girl he goes with sees him as a spender, and they make sure he pays dearly for them. That is why he doesn’t feel secure enough to walk up to a girl, forget his ego (the one that makes him compensate with expensive clothing) and take a risk. He’s, in many ways, very much afraid of it. And fear, as I’ve said many times earlier, only happens when you don’t know what to do.
Like I always say, you got to play the part. If you already have something going for yourself, show it off a bit. Don’t be obnoxious, of course. Too much arrogance often is a way of hiding an insecurity of some kind. The idea is not to be too arrogant because in a way a little bit of humility shows that you’re used to it. But on the other hand, you must act and walk tall, be proud and comfortable in your own skin.
Otherwise you’re just a walking mannequin, and there’re just so many of those. Besides, when girls see you all dressed-up and no attitude to back it up, they think you're trying to compensate somehow, they know you're willing to pay for attention and willingly they may decide to play you for a fool.
See, it's not so much that girls are superficial, it is that the behavior of many males simply demands of them to be just so. And men everywhere end up paying dearly for it.

El compañero de trabajo que acabo de reelevar, me dijo que tenía un dolor de cabeza. "¿En serio?" dije asombrado, y le pregunté: "¿Puedes decirme exactamente dónde?" Apuntó humorísticamente a su cien. Yo le dije que dejara el dedo donde lo tenía puesto y que imaginara que el dolor se encontraba justo bajo su índice. Después le dije que se concentrara un poco y que hiciera casi sin esfuerzo como si guiara el dolor desde su cabeza hacia la nuca, dibujando el transcurso con su dedo. Después le dije que se agarrara la nuca y se hiciera un masaje en todos los puntos que dolieran y que imaginara al dolor esparcido en pequeñas dosis por todo el cuello, hasta el nivel de los hombros. "Sólo haz como te digo" le dije. Ahora, le indiqué, respira despacio, inhala profundo tensando los músculos abdominales, uno, dos, tres, cuatro segundos, y sostén el aliento, uno, dos, tres. Luego, exhala despacio, rítmicamente, uno, dos, tres. Ahora, repite el proceso. Después, flexiona fuertemente los brazos, como si estuvieras sacando músculos frente al espejo (lo cual hace que la adrenalina incremente en la sangre). El dolor de cabeza desapareció.

The Approach

How far have we come in evolutionary terms that the simple idea of approaching a girl is a complex and troublesome task when it should be the least of our worries? Talking to any girl is a very simple thing to do, so why is it that the vast majority of us have a hard time doing just that? Of course, it is simple for someone who has tried it over and over again and with a degree of gradual success. However, it seems like rocket science for the average guy. Let’s target the problem in all directions and start brainstorming in any given way. So, I’ll start by saying that, yes, I am nervous when it comes to talking to a girl no matter how many times I have done it successfully. I find that little by little, however, I am less inhibited and more open in my interactions, and therefore a lot more successful with women simply because I feel that if the occasion arrives, I could interact with them and have very little to lose and a lot more to gain from it. I gain confidence, and like a muscle, it takes time to grow and it takes dedication.
Whenever the mind is presented with an obstacle in which has only failed, the normal response is to be moderate and not engage in anything that may cause us stress or discomfort. The problem, of course, is that whenever we choose not to take action and correct the situation, we feel like such losers. Some are content with this feeling, and do not dare come out of their shell in order to take a crack at it. Let me tell you something about having guts and courage and resolution and determination and willpower and wit and eloquence and charisma: it is learnt and it doesn’t guarantee anything at all. In fact, no matter how skilled the seducer and no matter how much experience in the “game” he may have, he is likely to have failed and still more likely to fail again. The problem with so many self-proclaimed “losers” is that they’re not losers at all. Hell, how can you be a loser when you haven’t even played? They’re better described as quitters. They’re usually so involved with themselves that their ego could not possibly afford the remote possibility of rejection.
Winners, on the other hand, are the biggest losers I know. They try so much that in deed they have failed just as well many times and they don’t beat themselves up for it. In fact, they work with it. They make light of a situation. They have fun. Their mood remains mostly unaltered and they go about their business as usual.
Think of real “loser” odds as the people who play the lotto over and over again. You don’t see these people get emotional about it or desist from trying even though the odds are against them. They just consider their loss: a few dollars couldn’t hurt anyone.

Keep your cool

On a chemical level, having approximately seven times more testosterone may not be a blessing after all; on a cultural level, being raised by women who resent the desserting nature of men or by couples where in order for the relationship to work, the man has, since long, been domesticated by the wife-factor, is no good either.
Therefore, it may sound crazy at first, but one of the ways to attract women to you is by killing your desire for them and keeping your manhood intact. Somewhere along the way, you may come across the horrible prospect of choosing between your woman and your character (i.e., personality, beliefs, peace of mind, etc); but you will also see that by sticking to your guns, you will have them feeding off your hand. So what is the most essential element in the equation? The ability to stand your ground which translates simply into never giving in to their caprices and absurd demands. Treat these psychosomatic peculiarities of the fair sex with a high dose of indifference, allow them to manifest without ever letting them get to you (it takes practice) and if you find it unbearable just firmly but calmly call them off on their behavior. Or, better yet, simply walk away. Like repremending a child, it is useful to speak with an authoritative, masculine tone: the idea is to make light of a situation and not to get on a who-can-raise-their-voice louder kind of contest. Because unless there is a substantial amount of money involved, no one wins anything by coming victorious out of an argument. So if her complaint is legitimate, nonchalantly admit to your wrongdoing, correct the situation if possible, and move on.
Keeping your cool in the initial stages of a seduction will throw off the most gorgeous creature a little bit. Now, the idea is not to ignore her but to rather behave in a way as if her actions or words had little effect on our state of emotion. The point is, few things are quite as exciting to the fair sex as a man who seems or is completely unmoved and yet firmly relaxed whenever around them. It, in turn, helps them to relax and be more comfortable. Like a predator sizing up his pray, keeping your cool is perhaps the most crucial tool at your disposal. It signals to her that you're not desperate, and she will have to resort to other means in order to destroy your self-assured composture.
What is the most common thing men do when they are in front of a beautiful woman? They either (A) get inexplicably anxious or they (B) plain and simple, don’t know what to do, or even if they do attempt something is usually (C) aimed at a need for proximity or closure, or they (D) disguise behind a friendly stance. There are even those who pretend that she is not there. There are those who put their focus right on her anatomy. The list is endless. We’re way too direct in our approach, or way too inhibited, or way too unattached, or way too friendly. Being way too much anything is part of being a man. Undoubtedly, it is easier said than done: after all, how do we put aside our emotions and get on with the job at hand? Remember: it is not something you're doing for anyone else to notice but for yourself. You're not out to adopt a few tricks just so that you can impress a pretty girl at work. What good is it to appear calm and sure of yourself in the face of others when you in fact aren't? In order to deal effectively with others, not just women, keeping focused and centered on your goals and making light of situations will go a long way. So:

• Instead of "building up the courage" to go and talk to her, focus instead on how you feel. The idea is not to get all worked up, tense and overtly taken whenever the object of your desire is around; the idea is to keep the sexual agenda off the table for a little longer and be completely relaxed about the whole ordeal.
• Remember: the only thing that is really under your control is yourself, so stop worrying about how others may perceive you or how others will respond to you. That is beyond your power; overall, people will treat you the way you treat yourself. You have to creat the feeling that you have something to offer, so conduct yourself with integrity.
• Be unshakeable: if there is to be an earthquake, you should be the last thing standing!
• If she behaves like a little girl, treat her like one. In a condescending manner, say things like, "Oh, poor baby is having a fist" or assertively compromise: "If you behave I'll give you a treat", or in a sly, cocky, slow-paced, emphatic context, pass the following judgement on her: "You look so cute when you're mad". Use an assertive, masculine tone. If none of these work, let her difuse on her own terms and if it exceeds more than a minute or so, just turn slowly towards her and say: "Want to know what I really think about this conversation?", then turn around and exit the room.
• Get used to rejection: It's part of life, and you should deal with it. Many times, the girl will reject you just to see your reaction. Understanding that rejection has little, if anything to do with you will help you out of your self-absortion and the ever constant need to live in your imagination where the world always seems fair to you. You're a conqueror, a warrior, and poking fun at you, ignoring you, hurting your feelings are the only weapon girls have against you: it's not like they can physically beat you up or suddenly come up to you and pick you up. So take that toy away from them and they will be with nothing left.

The unquestioned Superiority of Men

To all of the feminists out there: we are still masters of the universe. Let’s face it: very few aspects of life in which women’s superiority to men, comes only out of the men’s lack of interest in that particular subject. Women are far better, for instance, at playing mind-games than we are because, well, after willingly getting laid a few times, men lose all desire. Unless, of course, that woman could, somehow, prolong the affair by appealing at the man's insecurities. Maybe get him to do stuff for her, pussify him. In order for that to happen, she must withheld sex. It is her most leathal weapon, her best hand. If we were to give it up, she'd had nothing left. So, it follows: the less you crave it, the more it comes your way. Instead of hiding, try making friends out of them, you'll give up guys for good. Yeah, they pervade our minds, our thoughts, and yet we spend most of our time with friends from the same sex. We are so akin mentally and physically, if it weren't for our sexual drive and the instinct to procreate, we would all be gay.
Culturally, and by nature as well, women have to appear, if not necessarily be so, difficult. They have been manipulating men’s ultra-libido over eons, and in order to get what they want they have to play their cards right. If they were easy, it would be a done deal: as soon as the man would find his satisfaction, once the carnal transaction is over, for the man, everything is over. Since our desire for them is stronger, they know men are bound to end up in another girl's arms, if they let them pass by, and they castrate that impulse to jump up and down by inflicting pain, appealing to our taste for massochism. Look, we all have a knack for things going wrong. It reassures our pessimistic views. We claim wanting to be happy but only engage in behaviors that make us miserable.
It's not my intent to promote abusiveness towards them; that is not what superiority is about. For instance, we are in charge of our infants, but that doesn't grant us inmunity to cause them harm. However, there's nothing wrong with a healthy dose of pain to make healthy civilians out of us all. A domesticated animal is obedient and it is almost impossible training it to be so without depriving it of its animal-self first, without inflicting some pain. The infant eventually learns that the parents will not oblige to every single one of his or her desires. The lesson is painful but also necessary.
We touch bases with misery through existence. Better remember something causing us pain, otherwise we could very well perish. Pain makes us focus, it makes us face reality, it represents an opportunity to grow and a window at freedom, if only we dared to endure and suffer the consequences. Perhaps now, it would be a good time to point out that when it comes to the game of seduction, women are the greatest masters of all. Men are consumed by anxiety, highly driven, mechanical and impetous. It could be said that men are vile, vicious creatures by nature, and it is through the social experience that we learn to somewhat inhibit our nature in order to coexist somewhat harmoniously in an ever s0 chaotic world; but it could also be said that we have been dealing with our animalistic nature for longer as a species and that the social experiment still is a very fragile one. We kill one another, we profess what we can't keep up, we're all talk and little action. We are lazy, yes.
Most species in the animal kingdom are, anyway. After all, we spent hundreds of thousands of years living as animals. Civilization is a relatively new phenomenon in the history of our species. So what does this have to do with superiority and what does superiority offer us? Simply put, society –especially ours –has promoted the idea of equality between sexes. While no one can argue positive aspects to this delusion, the negative portion of it shall be exposed. Throughout history, men in power wanted to secure mating and territorial rights. They’ve tried force, mostly, and when they finally settled into a more sedentary society, those at the top of the hierarchy passed off laws and fomented ideas in order to make sure that those who enjoyed the benefits of power (usually their closest people) continued to do so indefinitely. It doesn’t matter what era or land you may find yourself in, financial resources at your disposition have always guaranteed the proliferation of your kind. Women have always been drawn to men in positions of power, however that power has been crystallized. For that, men have invariably excelled, plotted, murdered, intrigued, metamorphed into greatness or lied throughout history, in order to gain the favors of women. Undeniably, history chronicles the existence of outstanding women –but they represent a minority. For every Maria, Cleopatra, Joan of Arch or Madonna, there’re hundreds of male equivalents: Alexander, Napoleon, Churchill, Jesus Christ, Beethoven. For who is the female equivalent of Socrates? Galileo? Da Vince? Voltaire? Einstein? Of course, without a caring mother or a supportive sister in their lives, they all would have surely perish.
It is often argued that the reason women have not excelled to the greats of their sexual counterparts has to do with the lack of erudite formation. In reality, every great human being, be it man or woman, has undergone hardship. No glory has been handed to them for the sake of it. Even though women had powerful tools in their arsenal. Where upon flashing a smile, a woman may get a door open up for her, a man has to throw the door down in order to make his way in, and then put a humble face, as if he were embarrassed by his power. (You can't be a giant and expect not to step on some ants.)
The German philosopher, Arthur Schopenhauer, in a very organic definition of the fair sex said that they were like a creature between the man and the child. Truly, the world has changed vastly since the age of Schopenhauer: women are graduating at faster rates than ever before and are even rivaling their male competitors. But the truth also lies in that the education system employed favors them in that it is not only less challenging but also strictly feminine: it is more about being a social and harmonious animal than it is about performance and competition. Moreover, females are known to suffer from depression twice as much as males; testostorone has been recognized as the hormone of desire and we possess approximately seven times more of it than them.
Not only are we so much better but also far worse: More than ninety percent of violent crimes in any society are committed by men. The inversed stadistic is true of plastic surgeries, as women count for nine out of ten operations carried out. An average male brain has approximately 4% more cells and 100 grams more brain tissue than an average female brain.

The myth of Falling in Love

Often we speak in favor of a different approach in the gladiatorial arena of love. After all, what we have come to find familiar is no longer effective. Maybe there was a time in which a poem and a serenade would have worked magically, in which women fainted at the mere uttering of an obscene word. A time of knights in shiny armor and enchanted princesses trapped in the highest towers waiting to be rescued. Yes, there must have been a time in which girls were willing to kiss a few frogs in order to find the cursed prince hidden under that most unfortunate condition. But then there were unspeakable evil, two devastating world wars, famine, technological advances, Kinsey, the sixties, feminism, the Internet and all of a sudden the ideal world of fairy tales came to a stall. The struggle between what is real and fiction still goes on. The notion of “romance” still has its appeal, and as the times go, things never quite disappear, they transcend and evolve. A few decades ago, it was formal that girls would only see guys who their parents approved of, life was then too much a serious business to be fooling around, and a girl without innocence (mainly said, her virginity) was never as marketable. Nowadays, we may make fun of other stricter cultures and you may also find that in many lands not only would my writings –simple trickeries designed to kill time –may not only offend but be generally banned and meet my end hanged by the testicles. Yes, in many countries around the globe is a capital crime to speak in such a libertine manner. But the reality is that as a culture, we are not very far from ridiculing ourselves. We foment ideas that are downright silly. One such idea propagated at a large scale is falling in love. So, without further ado, as Voltaire would put it: let’s crush the infamous.
Sadly, all of us have fallen to this deplorable state. Falling in love is more of a common phenomenon than the common cold. We do not have a remedy against it and surely there won’t be a vaccine in the horizon anytime soon. So, the best solution is to brace ourselves and recognize its symptoms before it is too late. Falling in love can be best described as incapacity to reason. It can be said that the ability to reason is partially, if not permanently for the duration of the ailment, affected. The chemicals in the brain that induce us to fall in love are among the most potent in nature. Falling in love, after all, is a high no one can rationally substain once found under its spell. Initially, this chemistry cocktail party relies on our sex hormones, testosterone (for males) and estrogen (for women); a study once pointed at the possibility of males' levels of testosterone dropping and at the same time the opposite effect was observed on the female, as her levels of testosterone actually rising. This may explain why males' overtly exhibition of femenine traits in their encounter with the opposite sex and at the same time throw some light into women's aggressiveness in the rituals of attraction. In other words, men and women, whenever attracted to one another, become more like each other. Other chemicals involved fall in the category of monoamines, mainly speaking, dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin. Our resistance to such potent chemistry comes with age. Maybe that is why the phenomenon tends to be more severe in the early years of our formation. Although many never quite grow out of the pleasant feeling induced by the mating instinct, and seemed proned to be love junkies. Approximately three percent of mammals are monogamous (mating with one partner for the rest of their natural lives), and one such prodigious creature, the prairie vole, has an active chemical, vasopressin, believed to be responsible for the animal's proclivity to monogamy; if deprived of such vital chemical, this most faithful of animals loses its interest in his partner and goes looking for adventure elsewhere. Us humans, too, have our milder but no less potent version of such "love chemical", called Oxytocin. Its effect, unlike the menacing long-term induced on the male vole by vasopressin, is felt in the afterwards of having sex and the more sex we have, the more of it we are able to produce. The phenylethylamine molecule, particularily, is directly involved in the natural high of falling in love, and chemists are already developing drugs based on it in order to mimic or better yet reproduce the effect. In the near future, the literature on this matter will be made obsolete, authors like myself will most probably be put out of business for good, and love will be, like so many other things, a matter of taking a pill.

The process of domestication

In the animal kingdom, pain is the tool of choice when it comes to turn –whether it is a pet or an enemy nation –into what we want. This occurs socially, and while we may agree or disagree but the truth is that pain as well as pleasure are inescapably the reason and the force behind all human actions. That is what keeps me in my toes, what makes me get up from bed every morning: the horrible prospect of finding myself without an income. So, how do we train others –especially women –to treat us the way we deserve? Firstly, the way in which the interaction goes says a lot about the hierarchy among the subjects involved. In other words, we may be telling others with our actions exactly how we would like to be treated. A way in which animals do it is by keeping their heads higher and scanning to see if there are any rivals on sight. For this, they use eye contact; humans, too. Remember, we've been only speaking for a few milleniums; literacy is in its infancy. We would like to believe ourselves all very modern and while we have achieved a significant degree of technological advancement, every age has thought of itself as the most modern that ever existed. Our species, in general, is very much a new one in evolutionary terms.
Upon seeing you, a woman may already have subconsciously figured out facts about your persona: your approximate age, your social status, your mental and physical health, even if you are the dominant type. In order to find out more about you, she may lower her defenses by making visual contact, smile or even adopt a stricter manner. The trick is, whatever her position, you must at all times keep your cool, as if there's nothing she can do to shake your ground. And if you pique her interst, she will try just so to sort out exactly what you're made of.

• Respond to others only if you consider it necessary: people will often play to your vanity to get their way. Do not respond to women in the same submissive way in which most men will: by making themselves available.
• Always keep eye contact until the other person retrieves it. If they mantain the glance, then you can be first to smile and shortly thereafter greet them.
• Pay attention to your posture: You should always stand up with your chest out, sit upright, and do not fiddle. Your body and your mind are aligned so while attempting to appear natural, make the effort as well to feel just so.
• Oxigen is your most precious ally: control your breathing, and you shall conquer the world. Concentrate on your breath as if it were a flowing current of energy through your body. Tightening the muscles in your stomach as you breath deeply from it will bring more oxygen to your brain and enhance your social relations.

The answer you seek

Typically, a male may find himself swallowed by a myriad of questions: What do I do in the first encounter? How do I approach a complete stranger? What do I say on our first time out? What should I wear? Have I been cursed genetically with the shy gene? You name it!
While it may be almost impossible to answer all of these questions in a singular effort, my personal experience has served me enough to pinpoint with complete abandonment the essentials. Here’s my take: Look, if you find yourself with all of these or some of these questions, stop and think for a moment how girly really are you? In other words, it is the woman, in my opinion, the one who has to put herself in that position of uncertainty. The man has to be the one who leads her out of that state! Let me rephrase: we are not to take things wholeheartedly, especially around them. That is why they are completely taken by the man who seems not to care too deeply or have all of these inner dilemmas, the one who takes charge and seems always in control, the centered, and the most serene of them all.
Are you still confused? Let me spell it out: the behavior you’re adopting is precisely what keeps you away from being surrounded by a sea of girls. You could literally swim in an ocean of them if you learn to stay afloat without a care in the world whenever you’re near them. Keep in mind the following:

• You don’t need them; you want them. You are the man, this is a gift. Use it wisely. Real men don’t fall in love and they do not take too much crap either. If the load is too heavy, just set it aside and keep on your journey.
• Never take things emotionally: this is huge, so repeat it over and over. It works even in other social aspects like whenever your guy friends want to poke fun at you. Things that normally tear other people apart, you should just disregard. Laugh in the face of rejection, good things take pain and effort. Those around you will notice it. Always, under any circumstances, keep your “cool” aura comes from, being not too distant and at the same time not too far, not too cold or not too hot.
• Be like a mountain: immovable, mysterious, seemingly unreachable, peaceful, quiet, somewhat dangerous and full of life.
• Have a life of your own: in order to be with the “one”, you have to become the “one.” When you’re full and leading a satisfying life all of your own, others are drawn to you everywhere, especially girls. So go to college (dropouts do poorly, trust me), earn a degree, save to buy yourself a decent car, have your own studio, your personal projects. Don’t make your life revolve around women: you’ll never be happy.
  

That is all that I can think of. I’m getting ready to go out and enjoy life on this Friday night. If something else comes to mind, I’ll be sure to let my faithful followers know at some other time. And remember: the answer you seek is in the questions you ask yourself daily!