Your Allies: Strength and High Energy

It’s very simple from an evolutionary standpoint: the fittest of the male gets the best of possible partner. And how can we manipulate others into thinking that we are in high spirits if we look as if we were dragging ourselves throughout our daily routines, appear tired or anxious, and just can’t seem to be able to grab the bull by the horns and throw it down. The only way, of course, to effectively feel good about ourselves and impact others positively is by engaging in healthy and positive behaviors and leading a good life. It is not simply a mental matter; it is also a physical one.
And I can’t think of a better way to feel and look our best than exercising, meditating, dieting, in essence, living more appropriately: Look, people who eats healthy, sleep well, exercise regularly, do so in order to achieve a higher quality of life, not to be miserable. Those leading great lives do not obsess themselves with these alternatives either: a healthy athlete understands that in order to be at its optimum the most important element in any physical routine is rest.
Now I mentioned exercise and diet, and also having a good night sleep. Nothing quite as waking up refreshed and ready to start off your day: you can’t expect to feel your best if you do your worst. Surely, you’ll go out and sometimes skip an exercise routine for the sake of clubbing or pulling overtime at work. But you should take care of yourself by making time to exercise and watch carefully what it is that you put in your mouth with the intention to digest. This may sound like New Age stuff to some but the reality is that how we feel has a lot to do with what we eat. Nowadays, whenever I don’t feel at ease with myself I try to look for physiological answers rather than social ones. In other words, our ailment is of a physical and mental descending and not the result of something outside your realm.
Meditation, it may sound tricky or a bit extravagant but in reality those who feel that way is because they have never tried it effectively. I like to think of meditation as a way of cleansing ourselves of all worries and anxiety that daily life is full of. Exercise, well, is pretty self-explanatory. The fact is the opposite sex is far more attracted to someone who is physically fit than to someone who isn’t. A healthy mind in a healthy body, says a Latin proverb. In other words, there’s a very close relationship between how we feel and how we look. And nothing worth telling for generations comes from laziness, inaction or the lack of resolve.
Life is in the action. So stop reading and start moving, interacting, and feeling good. There’s really no reason not to.

The Obstacles: Rejection

I don’t think that most men who become successful with women are always successful. What I think happens is that they see favorable outcomes and do not stress where they fail. Like great boxers, once beaten, always find excuses for their short-comings. Take me, for instance. Out of all the times I tried, there’s no denying that I have failed. Many experts on the subject dedicate a portion of their time in minimizing the risk of failure. I do no such a thing. It’s not that I want my disciples to fail. It’s that I want them to see what they’re missing out as a result of their fear of rejection.
We all have a sense of privacy that we need to preserve. It’s what some called our “personal bubble”; well, let’s burst it, shall we? I mean, think about it. What is it that we are afraid of anyway? That a girl could get nasty as we approach her? That humiliation is the prize to get her. In other words, you not only have to take a shot at her. You have to assume that success would be the result. But what if things go awry? Okay, hold on to your manhood… this is where the real men are differentiated from the boys.
See, instead of assuming success, why not start by picturing the worst case scenario. I will begin.
At a club, last week, I saw a girl that I liked and on purpose I bumped against her without looking back. Her friend pulled me back and demanded me to say that I was sorry. “I never say ‘I’m sorry’”, I said with a straight, defiant face. The girls were not expecting that and so the one who had been pushed confronted me by placing herself in front of me and grabbing me by the shirt. “I don’t fight with girls but I’ll make it up to you” I told her in the same calm, self-assured, masculine, I-don’t-give-a-crap tone: “You look like you want to hit me. So, go ahead” I said and offered her my arm. She accepted the challenge. “Hit me as hard as you can, go ahead” I told her. She did. I swallowed the blow and said to her, kind of mocking her: “You hit like a girl.” She was furious so she hit me again. I grabbed her hand in mine and held her there, and then I took her against the wall sort of dancing, pressing against her. My friend Michael was shocked that she did not fight back. In fact, she seemed playful and willing, and we were making out a little while later.
Oh, that’s right, I was looking for rejection. Well, I have been known to say things like: “Listen honey, if you want to take a crack at my self-esteem, you’re just gonna have to try a lot harder than that.” Also, yesterday, a girl walking her dog: I told her that she shouldn’t let her dog pull her around. She said that the dog was spoiled with a very rude attitude. “Yeah, I see, your personality is extending through the cord all the way to the poor animal”, and she asked me defiantly if I was trying to be rude. “No” I said. “I think you’re doing a great job yourself on that department.” See, my advice, don’t fear them. Don’t be rude either. Just keep centered and treat them like you would if they were five years old –which

The Obstacles: Poor Hygiene

And that includes bad breath as well. I mean, politeness in society goes as far as not being able to tell another person that they have bad breath (yes, again) or that they basically stink! Now, I don’t know about you, the reader, but I consider this to be very rude. Not only the fact that someone might have bad breath or a horrendous body odor which may not necessarily come from the mouth but also that we should suffer them silently and not say a word about them.
What is it about most of us men that more often than not we look like we just got out of bed and dragged ourselves unto the streets without bathing or putting on clean clothes? Many times is not only that we look so but more like we are or do so. Let’s face it: cleanliness is not our forte. Which is why any man smelling and looking and being clean is not only hard to find but he usually stands out from the crowd. So take two showers a day if you must, wear some tasteful cologne and be very clean. In case you haven't notice dirty nails are an automatic turn-off for many girls, unless of course you are a very sexy mechanic or rock star. Then be as dirty as you want: the job demands it! But otherwise, please, smell and be clean.
You shouldn't use pants more than three times and never in a row! You should never use the same pair of underwears! You should have several tee-shirts.
Another thing that is noticeable is if your clothes are well taken care of. Look, brand names cost dearly because they are usually of a better quality. So instead of getting two cheap pair of jeans, buy yourself a great pair once a month. It is better to have eight great pair of jeans that not only will last you longer but also make you look much better than having a whole bunch of cheat jeans.