Asking for directions

A guy once asked me how come I am so lucky with girls.
-It has probably something to do with that I don’t rely on luck to begin with –I answered him.
With a few simple guidelines, we can pretty much get ahead of the game. If we want to get somewhere in life, knowing where that somewhere might be could be of great help, don’t you think? I mean, sure there are things in life that are beyond our power –for now. We can’t control the whether, or how tall and good-looking we are by nature. But we can always improve what is in our power to. The good news is, girls are not into looks as much as we are. Sure, they prefer guys who are tall and good-looking, but personality always wins the day. What good-looks have is an edge from the start. This advantage may open the girl up momentarily but if the male fails eventually to be bold and swiftly move in for the kill it can be all over pretty soon. And even if he does move in, he may do so in a way that kills the attraction because he doesn’t understand the dynamics of it. Take men short in stature: they are generally in better shape, as they grow muscles easier than their taller counterparts, they are usually better dressed, stand with their chest out and are without a doubt incredible dancers and very sure of themselves. Tall, good-looking guys often are laid-back as nature has already given them so much. They’ve been perhaps treated kindly by others since they were little and have found the rare need to implement their ways, as the world opens up to them more easily.
That said, it is still a fierce competition. While the good-looking or tall guy may have a temporary edge, he may not be as skilled with the greater prey. Now that is not to say that good-looks are unimportant or that a short guy always knows best. Every man, whether they are good-looking or not so much so, needs help in understanding the opposite sex, if that is their sexual inclination. It only makes sense that if you want to fly an airplane, you should know something about aerodynamics.
But we men grew up with a false self-assurance that works against us. We do not admit to our limitedness, in any particular field. Almost everywhere I have been in the continents of the Americas, there are always males talking obsessively about politics or sports. We deal with the world in terms of acquisition, domination, competition, eagerness. We grew up watching porno movies where the easiest, sleaziest line could be uttered and the girl would literally get naked. That was of no help. If we know something, is that is never easy. And that we should always be in-the-know. I am, even though I consider myself with a natural edge –after all, I am tall, fit, good-looking, healthy, and smart and have a thing or two going for me. By any definition, I should probably be surrounded by cuties everywhere and have them calling me all the time and not be in need of advice or info into the subject. That is not the case. The bigger your bet, the more is at stake. And the more you learn, the more it seems that there is to be learnt still. It is a never-ending process.
Let’s face it: we hate being told that we do not know. We rather die than change our ways. We spend our time talking loudly about body parts when it comes to girls and spend most of the time in our safe nest hanging out with guys. We spend our lives being drawn to them but very little to understand the object of our desire.
I can’t promise change. That is not my responsibility. It is in your hands to take it. I can only share a few views of mine and maybe that they are of help to some. If they aren’t, then nothing is lost.
There's no shame in seeking.