The focus is on you

Not only do we need approval from our parents, especially our mother, growing up. We look for it throughout life, in our relations with others. Guess what? Girls are about seven times shyer, more reserved, hygienic, and intuitive than you. At least, seven times, no exaggeration. Not to mention that they see, smell and hear much better than us, too. Think of it this way, they are used to being approached by the opposite sex all the time and therefore develop killer social skills in comparison to men, which they use as time-management tools in their lives in respect to men. They are more open and respond emotionally more often than not. Many of them, point blank, have grown used to the special treatment and have become spoiled brats. They may not see it, and we men are to blame for it, in part. After all, we do nothing short of throwing ourselves to the pavement as they pass us by, threatened by a fear we can't quite put into words. Because they have seen and heard it all, it is just common that you need to muster more skills than simply building up the courage to go up and talk to her. In the end, they are the ones being pursued all the time and that gives them an edge as to which male they prefer to spend time with. Everything in life boils down to competition; it is only reasonable that spending time to find ourselves, nurture ourselves and prosper as individuals, and not think for a moment that a few tricks up your social sleeve will serve as a shortcut. On the other hand, if you already have amassed certain social status, like having a good job, being independent and single, then you need to focus your attention on your social skills. We may have the advantage from the start, but nowadays women are raising the bar: they are graduating in superior numbers, and adopting some of the dominant traits men have been known for. That is just an exterior facade, just as superficial as our modern sentimental man; see, women imitate what they love of men, and men, thinking that it pleases women, behave more than usual. You can only guess that if the roles are not played properly when it comes to mating, then the result can be atrocious.
The way women were raised, however, could have been limited in parental concessions to social gatherings and so we got to go to parties and get drunk relatively earlier than them. All the while, they were being somewhat nurtured by their relatives, defended from the outside world, and little by little more focused on themselves. Also, they are girls, and as such, they tend to be already caregivers. They dress and smell deliciously, they take care more than us in general.
We short of being animals. I have seen many guys urinating in public, at least twenty for every girl ever seen. Actually, in my entire life, I have only witnessed close female friends do so. Take violent crimes, for instance. Less than ten percent of vicious crimes have been committed by females.
So, starting now, we will do the following: for an entire month we will diminish drastically the amount of time we spend on them and focus on ourselves. Here’s the trick every seducer knows: it is not the time you spend on them but the time you make for yourself. You will not look at their body parts as they face you, also: women are penetrated through the eyes. I mean, it’s common sense that if you invest half of the amount of energy that you currently spend on her in you, things in the romantic arena will be a lot different. Instead of going into all of those expensive dates, you could have bought yourself a decent car, a few great pair of jeans, cologne. The focused individual does not look up to success with women in life; he looks up to his own success in life and in the process is a more attractive individual socially, therefore more wanted by women. It is the first thing women notice about a man: his social status, his education, the car he drives, the money he has, the clothes he wears before he even opens his mouth.
But men tend to think that it is either about looks or money, and it isn’t. It’s about women’s needs, as women, and these needs are very different than ours. Just by knowing your purpose in life and following your dreams, by being more into your projects and goals, you can attract better friends, more beautiful women, in essence, be better.