The Approach

How far have we come in evolutionary terms that the simple idea of approaching a girl is a complex and troublesome task when it should be the least of our worries? Talking to any girl is a very simple thing to do, so why is it that the vast majority of us have a hard time doing just that? Of course, it is simple for someone who has tried it over and over again and with a degree of gradual success. However, it seems like rocket science for the average guy. Let’s target the problem in all directions and start brainstorming in any given way. So, I’ll start by saying that, yes, I am nervous when it comes to talking to a girl no matter how many times I have done it successfully. I find that little by little, however, I am less inhibited and more open in my interactions, and therefore a lot more successful with women simply because I feel that if the occasion arrives, I could interact with them and have very little to lose and a lot more to gain from it. I gain confidence, and like a muscle, it takes time to grow and it takes dedication.
Whenever the mind is presented with an obstacle in which has only failed, the normal response is to be moderate and not engage in anything that may cause us stress or discomfort. The problem, of course, is that whenever we choose not to take action and correct the situation, we feel like such losers. Some are content with this feeling, and do not dare come out of their shell in order to take a crack at it. Let me tell you something about having guts and courage and resolution and determination and willpower and wit and eloquence and charisma: it is learnt and it doesn’t guarantee anything at all. In fact, no matter how skilled the seducer and no matter how much experience in the “game” he may have, he is likely to have failed and still more likely to fail again. The problem with so many self-proclaimed “losers” is that they’re not losers at all. Hell, how can you be a loser when you haven’t even played? They’re better described as quitters. They’re usually so involved with themselves that their ego could not possibly afford the remote possibility of rejection.
Winners, on the other hand, are the biggest losers I know. They try so much that in deed they have failed just as well many times and they don’t beat themselves up for it. In fact, they work with it. They make light of a situation. They have fun. Their mood remains mostly unaltered and they go about their business as usual.
Think of real “loser” odds as the people who play the lotto over and over again. You don’t see these people get emotional about it or desist from trying even though the odds are against them. They just consider their loss: a few dollars couldn’t hurt anyone.