Ego Chips:

I coined the phrase "Ego Chips" from Carlos Xuma who mentioned it in one of formerly known as David De Angelo's "Interviews With Dating Gurus".
Lovers give and have endurance, patience, there are many ways you can give. Thing is, we evolved from tribes where an insult could result in being publicly shamed: you may never find a mate if word gets out that someone slighted you and you did not return fire. But in reality, what threat does it pose to extend a courtesy to a stranger, do good all around and keep an upbeat attitude, that all takes energy and effort. Caring, it takes effort; some may say it's rewarding, but it gets tiring. That's why you hit the gym, nothing spells confidence like being fit. Everyone around wants a great body; few have the discipline and carry-through character to make it happen. That's why strong men tend to be more assertive than their weakling counterparts. It's an attitude proper of an individual that has earned it. And it's not a sedentary title; there's no "after" you earn it. You have to keep up earning it. It takes hard work and it pays off. 

In dealing with others, as a man, you need to take the initiative. I rather make it about something other than hitting on women or, what's worse, flirting. I tend to be above all that, we're adults and we can deal with sexual tension. I choose to be okay with that fact and be charming as you pass me by, because I can almost detect your presence from afar. It is sometimes as if we were in sync, tuned into each other. We've known each other for years and it doesn't get old. It's fun to see each other and pretend we're really not there because we're really not and because we play pretend games all day long, as if the life that runs in our heads would supplant the realness of that which stands. We're gamblers. We're players.
We should reduce the anxiety that a beautiful girl causes us. It's how you show her that you really are in control. It's not the end of the world, given our reaction, as if we were dealing with a life-or-death situation.
So, we react as if it were a threat to our survival because that is how our subconscious perceives it, magnifying it so that it appears more urgent, so that we take measures in order to solve the matter. To get us to do what is essential in order to survive. When we move on, we're adapting. When we work, we're producing, earning our livelihood. Every aspect of our lives can and should be slightly improved, if it is to be mastered. We won't find that elusive perfection but we'll always search for it until we come really close to it. You ought to be better in every conceivable way. Wake up early as a new day dawns, find a reason that day to do something that you have postponed. Throw the dice again every time you open your eyes and see the world before your eyes. It's a good bet.