Bravery in Love

Persistence wins the game; but persistence is cunning and immaculately patient, in laying out the tentacles of its traps, it doesn't just bite with predatory teeth but infallible venom. Persistence, it takes more art and prose, though it can be vague and downright vulgar. In the end, you win over with love. For what is hate if not love in disguise? 
You may have to temper your impulses and act more in the moment, here and now, as opposed to improvise or give a verbal snapshot. A meme. 

It's cultivating relationships rather than just devouring the fruit. It's something you do from the minute you meet someone; if it comes as a lack from within, an inner vacuum, as if you were trying to prove something to yourself, then the response is not going to be favorable. It usually has something to do with the way you assume command that may question how the mission unfolds. Oh let's not kid ourselves, this is warfare. And as such, you don't make moves that they can see from miles away. 

It's fine if we're not welcome (rare though but it happens, and I love that it does, because hearing a "no" here and then keeps me engaged, what a fresh start. Rejection may mean that you moved in too fast. And even if you do take your time, and sharpen your edge, you still can at times miss your aim. It has happened. 

So, don't take rejection too personally, we tend to link how we get the girl with our self-esteem; instead, focus on your own void, fix things there, start getting alone with yourself before you think that the answer is out there in the shape of a woman. But if there's anything a woman loathes more than anything else is a needy man. If a girl rejects a guy it usually has to do with a million reasons inside her head than not. If most girls you approach reject you, then focus on your inner game/style/confidence. There, you'll find the source of all that ails you. Don't take these belongings of yours to the women in your life. As men, we got to deal with our issues and not make women the sole reason of being. A woman plays an indispensable part in a man's life; but his life should be about so much more, and women will resent your lack of vision and ambition if it is about her and not about your dreams what you are after. 

Women may be on the other side of this spectrum. They have an innate proclivity to make bonds that last a lifetime, like that of bearing children. Daughters tend to be closer to mothers than boys; sisters, if you have them, they never leave you alone. You can't escape the women in your family, they will follow you till dusk and leech around and fester with their good omens and commendations. Women can be dangerous if left unmarried, but even when they're married they still aren't at ease. Marital dissatisfaction is far more common than being satisfied with your spouse. No one's saying women are crazy, but that they can drive you there sometimes. And the weird thing about it is that some men go for a ride again and again. 

No drama, please. I don't often ask for favors, but lessening the melodramatic element, watering it down (you 

Usually, the last thing on a girl's mind is to hurt someone she's trying to reject. If it's a guy who she really has no interest in (and hey, guys, it's rare but it happens), she's either gonna try to spare the guy's feelings (especially if the guy was dumb enough to involve feeling memes in the first place). She may have something else better, or be playing hard to get. You have to be pushy sometimes, but always in a nonchalant way, not out of a need to be fulfilled but a want. Remember: you want her; you don't need her. 

Feelings of need evoke acts of desperation, ridicule follows, not a good prognosis. That need you feel of her isn't going away by having your way with her. It can only work if you completely give it up. Giving girls up before you try to pick them up is what creates all of that magical aura of relaxation, playfulness, like we did when we were kids and puberty hadn't ravished our innocence. Who know what then? Don't revert to that state of confusion, just let her go before you bring her in. She'll feel it, for you have bestowed a rare gift upon her: it's not what you want from her what you are after. It's her. And she can't help but feel genuinely and mutually attracted to you. It doesn't mean that she'll sleep with you. We didn't spend our time having sex; it takes years to mature and really appreciate intimacy. It is built with the same ingredients of passion and rawness, except it is more so than just that, it is that human bond that brings us together. Attraction is irrational, but so are we. 

If it worries what her response might be, it might be that her response has a lot to do with how you pose your question. And what is still far more important: how will you respond to her initial response. You should be prepared. Girls have all the angles, and in this emotional arena they reign supreme. We don't like to admit it but even the best of us are poorly equipped to deal the psychological warfare to which women in our everyday lives put us through. We're outnumbered; outgunned. We have very poor hygiene, and we're not afraid to walk on the wild side. We have an ancestry built around nomad tribes that migrated, waged war and made love in the savannas, a highly adaptable and successful specie. And so long as there was food and shelter, and as long as we weren't running away from a predator or preying on other animals ourselves, we fucked our way to more than seven billion of us. 

Be brave, it is a lover's gift, bravery being characteristic of a generous soul, it tips the ambivalence in its favor. Love is brave, it shows its face and it doesn't hide behind the ego into account because it has bankrolled you to behave egotistically in the past, time and again. We do things that make us be in peace with those around us, that's how we thrive socially; but in the mingling realm that is not the way things work, here casual questions are mating acquisitions in pretense and disguised, you politely ask a girl out for coffee when you really want to just rip her dress off and ravish her right there and then. And possibly way before then, ever since she walked into the same room. That instinct has got to be suppressed to the point of almost extinction. 

when the work is over and the night falls, or in coffee shops as grown-ups often do, Starbucks is the best place to meet people, once a friend said. I said, anywhere but there, and that's how the magic begins. Somehow, if you're not looking for it, though it may still be lingering in an unconscious subterfuge, it materializes out of thin air and manifests itself in the form of a girl when you were just really there for the music. 

It doesn't take guts to actually ask her out but in the way that you do so, not in the least bit apologetic about it. Your timidity then can cost you: it translates somehow to her that you are, in deed, a pussy and therefore not worth her time. It's boring, so don't do it. 

Your response should to her yes or her no should lack emotion. It'll be so for her, the more your energy is centered, the more your masculine core is fixed and grounded without the slightest stain of fear, maybe a heightened state of mind in which your former self is transcended and your gravity will make others orbit around you. Not being sure should be part of her ambivalence, not your goal to dwell in valence, you be persistent, not insistent. Persist; don't insist. She gets to play the feminine role, and in that realm of things, to paraphrase, in layman's terms: she gets to be the pussy. You know the role. Some guys even play it themselves, and that is why girls run away from them. It's simple: she gets to play the pussy role and you get to play the dick. It's the part you were born for. 

They already have a pussy, so don't turn into that girlfriend with a dick, that handy doormat. Dick is what they seek, and dick is what they should get. So, guys, don't be pussies! Man up, go and tease her, be playful, bold; she gets to be the girl, hence her antics. So long as you you keep your cool, double your bets, or back down gracefully, all is fair.