The Ego

"Don't let your ego get in the way of your dick" -Boris Amar.

Heartbreak? If you take a closer look at the human heart anatomy, you'll find it is hard to tear apart and it certainly would take more than a mere emotional "break-up" to make it collapse. If that were to happen, you'll stop living. It may feel like the world is coming to an end when the end of job, a relationship or even your pet ceases to exist. In reality, our brains are hardwired to exaggerate emotions, otherwise we may not survive. When we're hungry, we may say: "I'm starving!" We're far from starvation, and it may well feel that way because, well, our brain wants us to take care of the issue right away. 

How many times have we felt that we may lose our job if we don't get there on time? The anxiety we feel propels us into action, therefore the need to exaggerate what is really taking place seems apt. The mechanism of fear is primal and no one is without fear, but we can learn to exert some control over our emotions and, in time, may even learn to deal with them more effectively. It takes maturity, that is why it feels far worse when we are younger, how babies seemingly cry over "nothing", how teenagers experience anything with much more intensity is because they have yet to master their own state of emotions and exert some self-control. As I spoke -or will speak -of the "game" (good reads to start with, "Games People Play" by Eric Berne, "The Master Game" by Robert S. de Ropp), it is based upon the rules you make up for yourself. Like flipping through channels (I don't do this, ever since I found out about Roku a few years ago, all I need is a few paid subscriptions such Amazon Prime, HuluPlus and Netflix, and free countless, most notably Crackle, to make watching cable a thing of the past!), you choose what you want to watch. If you don't like the tune playing right now inside your head, just change it. Don't have thoughts living in your mind that don't behave like model roommates, if they don't pay rent, if their moral fiber isn't of worth, just get rid of it! 

They speak of the devil in disguise that is The Ego. In spiritual realms, it is no secret that The Ego is not well seen. The Ego is that part of you that nags and complains inside your head, makes you feel everyone around is suspect, it's actually self-sabotage disguised as mental discourse. You need to pay attention to whatever it is you keep telling yourself because you may very well end up believing it. And just like that, toxic thoughts turn to lousy actions, we hurt people we love, we abide by our own pessimistic way of viewing the world and on top of it, we are too proud and stubborn to recognize it. Of course, you cannot do without a sense of self-being, the Observer, the Eye-within, that sees it and judges all. What you need to foment in your mind is the understanding that you are not your thoughts; in fact, you are not you. Belief systems are deeply rooted in our subconscious mind and the realization may take "you" by surprise, but the fact is, "you" have borrowed yourself or, better yet, adopted these frames of mind, this mental chatter, day in and out throughout the course of your natural life. Enter: meditation. Meditation is a powerful ally to detach from yourself and disentangle yourself from the corrosive monologue that takes place in your head and takes your superior intellect hostage. Once familiarized with the immense realm of opportunities that abound outside the ego, you see the phenomenon of life take a whole different meaning. You begin to see that it is rather stranger than fiction the very essence of this moment in time. It doesn't take new horizons (though it might be useful to step out into different lands and engage in new activities); it takes a new way of seeing things for the very first time all over again. 

The Ego then will shatter and you will invite again familiar strangers into your domain. And they will enter your space and recognize that "you" are no longer the evil character they had come to recognize and sometimes even fear. Situations will transform themselves if only the curiosity to see things and people differently is entertained in the mind. Change your mind and the world around will follow suit.