The Obstacles: Rejection

I don’t think that most men who become successful with women are always successful. What I think happens is that they see favorable outcomes and do not stress where they fail. Like great boxers, once beaten, always find excuses for their short-comings. Take me, for instance. Out of all the times I tried, there’s no denying that I have failed. Many experts on the subject dedicate a portion of their time in minimizing the risk of failure. I do no such a thing. It’s not that I want my disciples to fail. It’s that I want them to see what they’re missing out as a result of their fear of rejection.
We all have a sense of privacy that we need to preserve. It’s what some called our “personal bubble”; well, let’s burst it, shall we? I mean, think about it. What is it that we are afraid of anyway? That a girl could get nasty as we approach her? That humiliation is the prize to get her. In other words, you not only have to take a shot at her. You have to assume that success would be the result. But what if things go awry? Okay, hold on to your manhood… this is where the real men are differentiated from the boys.
See, instead of assuming success, why not start by picturing the worst case scenario. I will begin.
At a club, last week, I saw a girl that I liked and on purpose I bumped against her without looking back. Her friend pulled me back and demanded me to say that I was sorry. “I never say ‘I’m sorry’”, I said with a straight, defiant face. The girls were not expecting that and so the one who had been pushed confronted me by placing herself in front of me and grabbing me by the shirt. “I don’t fight with girls but I’ll make it up to you” I told her in the same calm, self-assured, masculine, I-don’t-give-a-crap tone: “You look like you want to hit me. So, go ahead” I said and offered her my arm. She accepted the challenge. “Hit me as hard as you can, go ahead” I told her. She did. I swallowed the blow and said to her, kind of mocking her: “You hit like a girl.” She was furious so she hit me again. I grabbed her hand in mine and held her there, and then I took her against the wall sort of dancing, pressing against her. My friend Michael was shocked that she did not fight back. In fact, she seemed playful and willing, and we were making out a little while later.
Oh, that’s right, I was looking for rejection. Well, I have been known to say things like: “Listen honey, if you want to take a crack at my self-esteem, you’re just gonna have to try a lot harder than that.” Also, yesterday, a girl walking her dog: I told her that she shouldn’t let her dog pull her around. She said that the dog was spoiled with a very rude attitude. “Yeah, I see, your personality is extending through the cord all the way to the poor animal”, and she asked me defiantly if I was trying to be rude. “No” I said. “I think you’re doing a great job yourself on that department.” See, my advice, don’t fear them. Don’t be rude either. Just keep centered and treat them like you would if they were five years old –which